December 24, 2007
No Warning
Link : http://men.msn.com/articlebl.aspx?cp-documentid=5873934>1=10715
Up until my gave me 'a shot across the bow' I actually thought our marriage was going better than ever. We were starting to take trips, we finally had enough money so that we had some disposable income, we held hands more than ever, and things seemed to be hitting on all cylinders. I even thought our sex life, not a particularly vibrant area of our marriage ever, was improving somewhat. I can say with almost complete confidence that I had no warning. Later on, I will talk about some signals that I had received OVER THE YEARS that I think were very foretelling.
It turns out though, that what I've experienced is very, very common. So common that Michele Weiner Davis, a popular writer of divorce and relationship self help books, call it the 'Walk Away Wife Syndrome'.
So, if you read this little article, just beware, the statistics are against you in many ways. You have 50/50 chance your marriage will survive the test of time. And don't expect any warning. In fact, if you think it's going well, that is exactly the time to worry.
The positives though : At least now I'm no dummy on relationships. I've been studying them copiously. It won't save my first marriage, but it might make my next relationship the one I've always dreamt about.
It turns out though, that what I've experienced is very, very common. So common that Michele Weiner Davis, a popular writer of divorce and relationship self help books, call it the 'Walk Away Wife Syndrome'.
So, if you read this little article, just beware, the statistics are against you in many ways. You have 50/50 chance your marriage will survive the test of time. And don't expect any warning. In fact, if you think it's going well, that is exactly the time to worry.
The positives though : At least now I'm no dummy on relationships. I've been studying them copiously. It won't save my first marriage, but it might make my next relationship the one I've always dreamt about.
December 16, 2007
A new beginning
My last post was a year ago. Its December 2007 and I now live in an apartment and share time with my children.
I think I'll slowly tell my story, mostly for myself as writing would be cathartic, but because I have learned so much that even one little tidbit might help at least one other person.
So to kick things off, back in March this year, my wife of 16 years and myself were in our kitchen when my wife says to me that she has this strange electrical connection with another person.
I ask her if this this is something for which I should be worried and she says no.
And so my saga starts with this simple and innocent statement by my wife.
I think I'll slowly tell my story, mostly for myself as writing would be cathartic, but because I have learned so much that even one little tidbit might help at least one other person.
So to kick things off, back in March this year, my wife of 16 years and myself were in our kitchen when my wife says to me that she has this strange electrical connection with another person.
I ask her if this this is something for which I should be worried and she says no.
And so my saga starts with this simple and innocent statement by my wife.
